121+ Powerful questions for couples to unlock love

Questions for couples – asking the right question can mean the difference between having a short shallow conversation and deepening the relationship into something worth fighting for.

My husband, 4 kids and I take a lot of road trips so there’s ample time to get the conversation flowing. We try to use our time wisely and I often look for prompts and unique conversation starters to make the time go by faster.

Being a TV news anchor I love to ask reflective questions that go beyond the surface.

Ones that delve into a person’s motives, and what makes them feel alive.

In this blog post, we dig into the art of questioning in relationships, providing a full list of thought-provoking, humorous, and spicy inquiries designed to ignite meaningful conversations and foster a deeper understanding.

So let’s get to questioning!

Thoughtful Questions:

Go next level by digging deeper into what makes your partner tick.

1. What are your biggest dreams and aspirations?
2. How do you define success and happiness?
3. What do you value most in a relationship?
4. How do you handle challenges and setbacks in life?
5. Which 3 people are you most grateful for right now?
6. What is your greatest fear?
7. How do you envision our future together?
8. What do you think is the key to a lasting and fulfilling relationship?
9. What are you most grateful for in your life?
10. How do you cope with stress and difficult emotions?
11. What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
12. If you could have dinner with 5 people, dead or alive, who would you chose?
13. Finish this question – “I’m going to work harder on…”
14. Describe your perfect day.
15. What advice would you give your younger self
16. What’s your favorite holiday and why?
17. Top 3 items (besides people and pets) you’d save in a fire
18. The best love story depicted in a movie
19. Would you rather have a one-minute conversation with your past self or your future self?
20. What’s the most loved you’ve ever felt?
21. When was the last time you cried?
22. What’s your favorite memory that involved someone else’s wedding day.
23. Who’s the first person you reach out to when you need advice?
24. You’ve got 3 hours of free time, how do you spend it?
25. Name the nicest thing a good friend has ever done for you.
26. Name the nicest thing a stranger has ever done for you.
27. If you could trade lives with anyone for the day, who would you pick?
28. When was the last time someone encouraged you out of the blue?
29. What’s your best friend’s best quality?

Questions about the future

It’s always fun to dream about the future together. Let this guide you to think and plan big when it comes to future goals and aspirations.

1. Name a short-term goal of yours
2. You have 1 day to spend $100k, what do you do?
3. If you could live anywhere where would it be?
4. Describe your dream vacation.
5. Do you want kids and if so how many children?
6. What makes a healthy relationship?
7. What’s one quality from your parent you’d like your children to get.

Money Questions

Questions about money reveal a lot about a person and couples should strive be on the same page when it comes to financial goals. A great source for information and guidance on all things financial is Dave Ramsey Solutions.

1. If you’re handed a million dollars, what do you do with it?
2. If money didn’t matter, what’s a job you could do for the rest of your life.
3. What’s the dumbest thing you’ve ever spent money on?
4. What’s the best money you’ve ever spent?
5. What’s the most money you’ve ever spent at one time?
6. What’s the most fun thing you’ve ever done for free?
7. What’s your favorite way to spend money?
8. Finish the sentence… “In my house growing up, money was…”
9. Finish the sentence… “My biggest financial fear is…”
10. “When it comes to giving I…”
11. Favorite thing I love to blow money on is…
12. Biggest regret when it comes to money.
13. Favorite place to spend money.
14. One thing I never want to spend money on is…

Funny Questions:

Let your silly side show but delving into some fun and funny questions that will have you both giggling.

1. If you could have any superpower, what would it be and why?
2. What’s the silliest thing you’ve ever done?
3. Would you rather have to loudly sing the chorus of “Baby Shark” every time you enter a room or do a cartwheel every time you leave?
4. What’s your favorite joke?
5. If you were a character in a sitcom, who would you be?
6. What’s the weirdest food combination you enjoy?
7. Would you rather have to wear a chicken suit every time it rains or a bathing suit every time it snows?
8. If you could swap lives with any celebrity for a day, who would it be?
9. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you?
10. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
11. What’s the most ridiculous thing you believed as a child?
12. If you could time travel, what era would you visit and why?
13. What’s the worst advice you’ve ever given?
14. What’s the worst advice you’ve ever received?
15. Would you rather know what your pets think of you or never hear them speak?
16. Name a fear of yours you know is totally irrational.
17. Which superpower would you choose and why?
18. Name the most annoying celebrity and why.
19. What’s an embarrassing moment you’ve witnessed recently?
20. What’s your go to karaoke song?
21. Name song lyrics you realized later you were singing wrong
22. Favorite movie that other people don’t like.
23. Tell me about your worst haircut ever
24. Would you rather stub your toe 4 times in a row, or be without your cell phone all day?

Questions for couples about Childhood

How we were raised can largely impact how we approach current relationships and the world in general. Get a better glimpse into the past and you’ll see a clearer future.

1. What was your favorite childhood toy, and do you still have it?
2. Can you share a fond memory from your childhood that always brings a smile to your face?
3. Did you have any special traditions or rituals in your family when you were growing up?
4. What was your favorite book or TV show as a child, and why did you love it?
5. Can you recall a lesson or piece of advice from your parents that has stuck with you throughout your life?
6. What was your favorite game to play when you were young?
7. Did you have any pets growing up? If so, what were their names and what memories do you have with them?
8. What was your favorite subject in school, and why did you enjoy it?
9. Name your first celebrity crush
10. Can you describe your childhood home and neighborhood? What were some of your favorite spots or hangouts?
11. Is there a particular event or milestone from your childhood that shaped who you are today? If so, can you share the story behind it?
12. What’s your very first childhood memory?
13. Who was your favorite teacher and why? Worst teacher?
14. Tell me about your childhood best friend.
15. Describe your childhood bedroom.
16. Who is your favorite family member?
17. What’s the most important lesson you learned from doing a sport?
18. Favorite board game.
19. What’s the worst pain you’ve felt (physical pain).
20. First album or first CD you’ve ever owned.

Spicy and Sexy Questions:

Spice up your conversation and imagination with these more intimate questions.

1. What’s your biggest turn-on?
2. Describe your idea of the perfect romantic evening.
3. What’s your favorite fantasy?
4. If you could whisper one thing in my ear right now, what would it be?
5. What’s your favorite part of my body?
6. If we were to make a spicey playlist together, what songs would be on it?
7. What’s the sexiest thing someone has ever done for you?
8. What movie scene do you think is the sexiest from a mainstream movie?
9. Name your favorite kiss that we’ve shared.
10. Describe a perfect date night.
11. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
12. Favorite thing about your own body.
13. Biggest turn-on in a partner.
14. When was your first kiss?

Fun Questions for Couples

Explore your fun and playful side with some of these questions for couples.

1. What 3 movies could you watch over and over again and they never get old?
2. Have you ever had a really bad first date?
3. What pulls you out of a bad mood?
4. Biggest pet peeves
5. Would you rather be on a dating show or a survival show?
6. What’s a bucket list place you’d like to visit?
7. Describe a favorite food of yours that some find weird.
8. If you could eliminate one personality trait from yourself, what would it be?
9. What couple do you know that appears to have the most fun relationship?
10. One thing you’ve been putting off for too long.
11. Name a relationship you admire

Religious Questions:

Religion or lack thereof is a big deal for many couples. Get the conversation flowing with some of these starters.

1. What role does spirituality play in your life?
2. How do your religious beliefs influence your values and decisions?
3. What is your favorite religious text or scripture, and why?
4. How do you feel about attending religious services together?
5. What are your thoughts on raising children with religious or spiritual values?
6. How do you approach prayer or meditation in your daily life?
7. What are your views on forgiveness and redemption?
8. How does your faith shape your understanding of love and relationships?
9. How do you handle disagreements or conflicts related to religious beliefs?
10. What practices or rituals are important to you as part of your faith?

Conclusion

In conclusion, exploring thought-provoking questions together as a couple is not just about uncovering facts, but about delving into the depths of each other’s hearts and minds.

It’s a fun way to spend quality time together and deepen the relationship with your favorite person.

It’s something we should all strive to do whether the relationship is a few months old or you’ve been together 30 years. In fact, my folks have been married more than 60 years and their love language is stronger than ever.

Theirs is the relationship I most admire in life. It’s why my husband and I consciously set quality time aside to spend together. Things like date nights and weekend getaways with just us.

I hope you find this post helpful and it prompts some fun questions for you to share with your favorite person, partner, and maybe even your friends. Let me know if you come across an especially good question I should add here or a particularly good answer.

Erica Fox

Hi I’m Erica! TV news anchor and mom to 4 littles. I’m obsessed with creating those “wow” moments in life through crafting at home, cool travel adventures and special celebrations with loved ones. Thanks for joining me on this adventure!